In my previous post, Learn, Protect, Let Go, I discussed when to let past experience serve as a reminder and when to let it go in present/future relationships.
In this post, I want to remind you to always be happy relationships happened but remember if they don’t stick, it’s for a reason.
We are an ever evolving species. We are always changing and growing so it makes sense that people grow apart. I have a friend, my oldest friend, of about 20 years (since 4th grade). We were inseparable for most of our friendship. We went to the same elementary, middle and high school. We went to different colleges but we still kept in touch consistently. Then a few years ago we realized that we were growing apart. I was heartbroken when she would say that we were no longer as close as we were or that I wasn’t her best friend anymore; but with some time I realized that she was right. We both started to value different things, want different things for ourselves, like different things, need different things in relationships, and have very different personalities. I realized that there is nothing wrong with this. We are still friends. We will catch up and talk, sometimes, but we are just not as close as we used to be. We both evolved and grew….apart.
It’s hard to accept when you grow apart from someone you have been or once were so deeply connected to. We all want to hold on. We don’t want things to change or for us to grow apart from the people close to us with whom we’ve cultivated something very special and human. But I’m here to tell you that it’s perfectly normal and healthy. Be happy that you had these relationships – that you met these people. Believe it or not, everybody has brought you something- a lesson, a smile, an experience to remember forever, etc. – no matter how short-lived their presence in your life.
It’s perfectly OK to evolve past friendships because there are more fitting people waiting to fill your life with love.
This same sentiment goes for lovers and exes who are no longer a part of our lives, but this will be expanded on in the next post tomorrow.
SK